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God said天父說：

In terms of the world，there are at least two parties who communicate.One is called the speaker，and the other is called the listener.True conversation is a beautiful tango.One leads，one follows.They both lead.They both follow.The listener really listens，doesn't interrupt，listens deeply until it's his turn.Then there is role-reversal.Good speaker becomes good listener.There is no infringing.Each role is priceless.
就這個世界而言，至少有兩方參與才能稱之為溝通。一方是陳述者，一方是聆聽者。

真正的對話有如一曲優美的探戈。一方領舞，一方跟隨。彼此引領，彼此跟隨。聆聽的人真的在聆聽，不會打斷，用心的傾聽，直到輪到他講。

然後角色互換，陳述者變成聆聽者。彼此互不冒犯。每個角色都極為重要。

It is hard for some people to express what they really want to express.For others，it is easier to speak than to listen.Speaker and listener are both essential.Without speaking and listening，where can communion lie?
一些人在真實的表達方面有困難。而另一些人相對於聆聽而言，講述會更為輕鬆。講述者和聆聽者都很重要。缺了一方，怎能叫溝通？

If you are the listener at a particular moment，you may just be waiting for your turn to talk.Waiting eagerly to speak your heart isn't listening.It is counting the seconds until it is your turn.
如果某個特定的話題中，你是聆聽的一方，那就要保持等待，一直到輪到你說話的時候。按捺不住的要講話不是在聆聽，那是在數著時間排隊。

For the want of listening，friendships have been given up.
因為沒有耐心傾聽，友誼也會中斷。

One or the other，or both parties，shrug their shoulders and think："He doesn't give a hoot.Why should I care?"
其中一方，或雙方，會聳著肩想："他根本不在乎，我為什麼要在乎？"。

Friendships are broken.Wars start.All from an inability to listen.Sides are taken.There becomes a need not to listen as if listening were weakness.
友誼因此破裂。爭執隨後出現。這都是因為聆聽上的欠缺。天平傾斜。這最後會發展成"不去聽"，好像聆聽是在示弱。

Listening is a great skill.It is necessary for survival.
聆聽是門高深的技巧，是生存的必須。

Goodness knows，you don't want someone to butter you up，nor do you want to pretend any more than you want to be pretended to.You want to understand，and you want to be understood.How important it is to be heard，and how important it is to hear.
都知道，你們並不想曲意奉承和矯揉造作。你們要的只是理解和被理解。被傾聽，和聆聽，都非常重要。

To listen is not weakness.We could more wisely say that listening is strength too often unused whereas the need to be heard is Gargantuan and as deep as hunger.Somehow a need to be in charge too often surfaces and takes over.There is some kind of weak-kneed requirement to be right，even at all costs.
聆聽不是示弱。如果某人"被傾聽"的需要非常強烈，這時聆聽對他會是種有力的支持，但這點常常很少能做到。更多時候是被人搶了話題。所謂的"示弱"是一種必要，即使是付出一切代價。

Beloveds，is it hard to understand and say："I understand what you are saying."
親愛的，"你說的我理解"，這樣的體諒和表述很難嗎？

What's so hard about saying you're sorry? And what is so wonderful about being right? What is so wonderful about winning an argument? What have you won? You and your so-called opponent both win when an argument has cleared itself!
"對不起"幾個字很難說出口嗎？而一貫正確好在哪裡？爭論中佔上風重要嗎？你贏了什麼呢？只有爭論自行消失，你和你所謂的對手才會有雙贏。

When there is honest talk right along，where would an opponent come from? False agreement later plays a part in resentment.Maybe you say nothing in order to acquiesce.Maybe you have not represented yourself right along.Maybe you gave your rights away，and，so，you have affronted yourself.Maybe you had such a need to be loved，a voice within you whispered inside yourself："I will be the most giving person in the world.I will build our friendship at my own expense."
如果對話是真誠的，何來對手？怨恨是源自協議的達成有失真誠。你的一言不發可以說是默許。可能你沒有順暢的表達自己。也可能你給出了你的力量，沒有足夠的自我尊重。也可能你對愛有太多的渴求，內在的一個聲音對你喃喃的說："我要成為這個世上最能給予的人，即使這友誼的構建是以我自己為代價。"

You want to be seen as a good guy and thus，perhaps，the fairest of all.
你想成為別人眼中的好人，或最公正的人。

It is possible that you pay too much for too little，and you begin to see that you have been overpaying for favors.You made yourself small rather than great.Perhaps you started off from pretense.The false position is that you are not worth much.I say otherwise.
可能你給出太多，回報太少，你開始覺得自己出於好心一直在過度付出。你讓自己變得渺小，而不是偉大。這可能要從你最初的偽裝說起。你錯誤的把自己放在不配得的位置上。而我認為恰恰相反。

Dear Ones，you exist，and it is not a favor to the world or to anyone including you or your friend to negate your own self-worth.
親愛的，生活中你對自身價值的忽略，無論是對這個世界，還是對任何人也包括你自己，並不是種恩惠。

Remember My request.My request is that you represent Me in all interactions.I am strong，dear ones.That I am humble does not mean I am an appeaser.That I am without ego doesn't mean I am a push-over.
記住"我的要求"。我的要求是：在所有的互動中，你都要代表"我"。我可是強大的。謙卑並不意味著要姑息。沒有小我並不代表沒有立場。

I have nothing to prove.Nor do you.You are made in My Image.I am forthright.I don't make bargains.I do not trade.I do not give up Truth in order to gain something else.I certainly don't downplay Myself.
我沒什麼好證明的，你也是。你是以我的形象塑造。我很直接了當，不談條件，不做交易。也不會為了換取什麼而放棄真理。更不會妄自菲薄。

That I suggest you say Yes readily and more often doesn't mean you are a pawn who erases himself.
我建議你隨時準備好說"是"，並要常說，但這並不意味著你是個要自我淘汰的走卒。

Remember，you represent Me.You are not to give your birthright away.I am the Way.
記住，你代表的是"我"。不要把你與生俱來的權利交出去。— 我才是"道"。
 
 
 
原文：http://heavenletters.org/the-need-to-be-heard-and-the-art-of-listening.html
傳導：Gloria Wendroff 發佈於2017年1月18日
翻譯：天堂豎琴 http://blog.sina.com.cn/u/1554109041